The thing about sex

Someone just told not having sex before 23 is actually risky, as if she is trying to encourage me to have sex (ehem). Being raised in an extreme traditional family, (or at least most people think it is 'extreme traditional', while i feel very comfortable with it) i hardly talk about sex with my parents. The only time i talked about sex with my mum was because i want to understand more about breast cancer, and she was generous enough to share her knowledge with me

I hardly raised the topic about sex with my friend, unless they touched on it, i will consult those 'experience' ones for the sake of general knowledge. This doesn't mean i hate sex, in fact, i am very open with it, and i think it is very important as a human being. I remembered i ever signed a note back in high school about not having sex before getting married, i know it sounds lame for some people, but i think it's my own promise to myself in some way.

Knowing some teenage out there trying to get rid of their virginity ASAP, because being virgin = loser. But sometimes just learn to be like Blair,  just do it for 'the one'.(In fact, i think that's the best part of GG that teaches teenage not to have early sex) In contrast, i had friend told me they know someone who give their virginity to someone they don't really love, because she doesn't want to feel sad if she break up with the one she loves, which make sense too !

And sometime ago, i read an article about one teenage girl will stay virgin until she married, because of her promise to her dad. Ummm....probably everyone thinks differently, but i think staying yourself clean should be for yourself but not other. But after all, if one is not strong-minded for him/herself, relying your belief on others should be fine as long as it helps to reach the purpose, rite?

Most people doesn't take sex seriously, because CONDOM is 99% save rite? I mean 99% is a strong figure and it gives you a good reason to have sex. Statistically, you still have 1% of chance to get pregnant, and you will defense and said 'it can't be that lucky'. But if trying to put this in probability, does that mean out of 100 time you have sex, there will still be 1 random chance you can get pregnant. And hey, how many time you had sex before you get married again? Also, are you sure you really use condom every time you had sex, and are you sure you condom is not broken (another random chance of bad quality from the factory ?). Because based on some friends' experience, out of 10 times of sex, there were 2 times that the guy decided not to use condom. 

I don't mean to persuade you to have sex or not, because that's totally your own life. But i think there's something to think about before, during, and after having sex.

I think underestimating the chance of getting pregnant is like car speeding. First you speed like you are so safe, but when accident happen, it is always too late to make any explanation or amendment.